5 Proposal Planning Tips from She Said Yes! Detroit
Planning a proposal is a stressful event. There are so many factors and decisions that go into that moment: Where should I propose? When should I propose? Should anyone be there? Should we meet up with friends and family afterwards? What kind of diamond does she like? What size ring is she? What story can I tell her or how can I bring her to the location? Luckily, She Said Yes! Detroit is here to help you not only plan your perfect proposal, but to photograph it for you too. Below are 5 proposal planning tips.
- Know your 5 C’s
First thing is first: you need a ring. When I first started ring shopping, I found it to be a stressful event. The first jewelry stores I went to tried to sell me a ring. I would have much rather have been educated and then guided to a diamond. The jeweler I bought my engagement ring from did exactly that and it made buying a ring not only easy, but enjoyable too. Below are the 5 C’s that go into buying a diamond with a quick synopsis of each to help you pick that perfect diamond.
- Cut – Most people confuse the cut of the diamond with the shape (round, princess, pear, oval, etc.) The “cut” of the diamond actually refers to the measurement of the symmetry of the diamond. A diamond that is either too shallow or too deep of a cut will not properly reflect the light.
- Clarity – Clarity is another word for flaws or imperfections. Trapped inside of every diamond are small little flecks or black dots, which the industry calls “inclusions.” The goal is to minimize these imperfections. Again, GIA has a rating system, going from flawless (which very, very few diamonds are) to I3, which looks like a bowl of salt and pepper. Ideally, you want to stay above SI1 (slight inclusions). SI2 or lower and you can see the inclusions with your naked eye.
- Carat – This is the most commonly known characteristic about diamonds among guys, simply because it refers to the size of the diamond. It is also what every guy thinks his bride cares about. In actuality, it is far better to get a high quality diamond (especially color and clarity) than it is to get a large carat diamond. A large carat diamond ring with low quality is probably the worst thing you can do to be 100% honest. You are buying your fiancé a discolored stone that is so large, it draws attention and it is easy to see all of the imperfections. Let me explain it to you this way, would you rather have a new Corvette or a 1984 Lamborghini with 80,000 miles, a cassette deck, and a rusting body? Most people would go for the Corvette; it is a nice, new, and balanced car. Sure, the Lamborghini sounds nice, but no one watches Miami Vice anymore. The Lambo is that 2 carat, yellowish diamond with flaws that is big, but not exactly desirable.
- Color – This is one of the most important aspects of the diamond, that also has some wiggle room when it comes to bang-for-your-buck. Color helps give the diamond its “pop.” The color scale goes from D (colorless) to Z (yellow/brown). You want to keep it above J (near colorless). To the naked eye, there isn’t much difference between a J or I color diamond, however, there is a price difference.
- Cost – The rule of thumb for the cost of an engagement ring (read: what marketers came up with) was three month’s salary. This is garbage. In the end, you want a ring that both you and your partner are proud of. Nothing more. Nothing less. What price tag that comes to is completely your choice.
A few more things:
- GIA certifications are stricter than AGS certifications, so shop the GIA characteristics of the diamond.
- Don’t buy the engagement ring at the first store you go into. Shop around, ask about store policies, and ask friends for recommendations.
- You may want to consider buying insurance specifically for the ring itself as opposed to putting it under your homeowners. Jewelers Mutual is a great option as they offer a no questions asked, full replacement insurance policy.
- Consider giving a tradition, heirloom, or antique ring to your fiancé.
- Every diamond is different. Take time to look at 10-20 of them. When you find the one your partner will love, you will know.
- Know your partner.
This is the first and most important step in the planning process. What would your partner appreciate: do they like the spotlight and attention? Are they more comfortable when it is just the two of you? The answer to these questions is where you start. The proposal itself happens so fast; you want the focus to be on the moment. To make this happen, make sure that your partner is comfortable in the proposal surroundings. Let She Said Yes! Detroit help you will some proposal planning tips.
- Pick your location.
Where you propose is just as important as how you propose. I always encourage guys to pick a location that is meaningful to you as a couple. Here are a couple of places that may help you start planning your proposal day:
- First date
- First kiss
- First time you said “I love you”
- First place you knew you loved her
- Best or most fond memory
- Her favorite location
- Her favorite activity
- Your favorite activity as a couple
- A place with “relationship history” between the two of you
- Favorite vacation spot
- A bucket list location
- Make it memorable.
Guys, this is your opportunity to hit a grand slam. Your fiance is going to tell her proposal story for the rest of her life. Every time she does, it is an opportunity for her to feel lucky, proud, and loved. Make the proposal thoughtful and memorable. It doesn’t have to be Kim and Kanye style with helicopters and fireworks; it just need to make her feel special. It could be the smallest gesture, like a well-written card, celebratory champagne, or an heirloom gift that you also have planned that is the icing on the cake, in addition to She Said Yes! Detroit being there to document it, of course!
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- Capture it!
One of the best and easiest ways to make your fiance feel special is to have your moment professionally captured. So few couples have their proposal captured and yet it is one of the most important moments in your life! Think about it, what do all of life’s biggest moments (birthdays, graduation, prom, wedding) have in common? They are all photographed! Do you really want the most important moment of your life, when you have put so much time and effort into planning it, to be captured with a cell phone? Let me answer that on behalf of your fiance: no. Let us capture the proposal, her reaction, your celebration, and a short portrait session afterwards to remember it by. You won’t regret it. Let She Said Yes! Detroit give you some proposal planning tips
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